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THE POWER OF READING: A HABIT THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE

THE POWER OF READING: A HABIT THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE Imagine holding a key that can unlock knowledge, improve your confidence, and create opportunities for a better future. That key is reading. Unfortunately, many young people spend more time scrolling through social media than reading books, newspapers, or magazines. Reading is more than a school activity; it is a lifelong habit. It expands your vocabulary, improves your communication skills, and helps you think critically. Successful people around the world often attribute part of their success to the habit of reading regularly. Reading can also be enjoyable. Whether you love thrilling novels, inspiring biographies, sports stories, or entertainment news, there is always something that matches your interests. Every page you read exposes you to new ideas, cultures, and experiences without leaving your home. If you want to achieve your dreams, start by making reading a daily habit. Read for at least 20 minutes every day, discu...

STRESS MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES

STRESS MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES Have you ever felt overwhelmed by work, family responsibilities, or the challenges of everyday life? If so, you're not alone. Stress is something we all experience. While a little stress can motivate us, too much of it can affect our health, relationships, and overall happiness. The good news is that stress can be managed. Here are a few simple techniques that can help you stay calm and regain control of your daily life. Take a Deep Breath When stress begins to build, pause for a moment and focus on your breathing. Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose, hold it for a few seconds, and gently breathe out through your mouth. Doing this a few times can help relax your body and clear your mind. Keep Your Body Moving Physical activity is one of the best natural stress relievers. You don't have to spend hours at the gym. A short walk, a bike ride, dancing, or even stretching for a few minutes can improve your mood and reduce tension. ...

WHAT THE STORM LEFT BEHIND

Storms, they say, only last for a night and fade away, but no one talks about the spoils they leave behind that sometimes stigmatize us forever. Trauma is insanely dangerous, and somehow I find it difficult to heal from it. I know my life is a book with so much hurt, so much that I cannot carry it any longer. Maybe I should run away to the desert, perhaps the beach or a waterfall, and connect again with nature, feel its stillness, and breathe in its freshness. We say, "I forgive you," easily, but our hearts have not consented yet. They say forgive even when an apology is not given, but I feel much worse than that. You do not want it, but somehow you wish the pain could disappear from your eyes. Maybe whoever caused it should be out for a while. I remember how easy it was to forgive even without any apology. I remember how she walked innocently. People walked over her until silence became her outfit. If she told her pain, know she was deeply hurt, and if not, know she had let ...

THE CHILDISHNESS OF HOLDING GRUDGES

The world is large, I know, and everyone in it has different characters, though with certain similarities. But despite these differences, I sometimes convince myself that most people who claim to be older are still children at heart. While growing up, I often heard a phrase I have used repeatedly in my previous blogs because my childhood, till now, has been filled with many lessons. My mother taught me how to respect people’s decisions, but life taught me how to set my own boundaries, although sometimes I still allow people to override them. The reason I am writing this is to enlighten many people who see saying “No” as a grave offence, as though they are entitled to your entire life. I was in the examination hall, and she sat three benches behind me. We were writing a course that involved formulas, and I had prepared well for the questions. She needed help, but there was no way I could risk my future to help her, so I politely said no. Little did I know that she kept it in mind....

THE AFRICA THINKING

THE UNTOLD TRAUMA OF BEING THE QUIET AFRICAN DAUGHTER Plato, the Roman philosopher, once said, “Do not force children into paths they do not want to follow.” In my own interpretation, he was right. People are born differently, made differently, and ultimately created differently by our Maker. Because of this, our purposes can never be the same. Many of us, because of childhood upbringing, have been deeply traumatized to the point where we neglect ourselves completely. While growing up, some of us were taught that real children never complained, explained themselves, or spoke in self defense because that would be seen as disrespect. Saying “I am tired” was almost a crime, and saying “I cannot go” was even worse. Every African child was expected to always be available at the beck and call of others, especially the girl child. We were taught that marriage was the ultimate priority in a woman’s life and that if you did not learn how to kneel and serve your spouse, then you would becom...

ALL OF US ARE PLAYERS

ALL OF US ARE PLAYERS Humans are insatiable. According to Adam Smith, our desires are endless. As humans, we are filled with a deep longing for many things, and when we lose self control, we become puppets to those desires. All Of Us Are Players is not just a random article. It is a reflection shaped by observation and thought, rooted in the realities of contemporary living. We all dislike being played. It could happen in relationships, in life, or even within our own minds through anxiety and premature excitement. When we speak of players, we often think of people who engage in games for fun, fitness, or income. However, the truth is that we are all players as long as we exist in this world. We act for our own benefit. Sometimes, our selfishness pushes us into decisions that involve deception. I have had conversations with different people about their views on relationships, and many of them point fingers at the same issues. Some say men are scumbags, while others describe women...