ALL OF US ARE PLAYERS
Humans are insatiable. According to Adam Smith, our desires are endless. As humans, we are filled with a deep longing for many things, and when we lose self control, we become puppets to those desires.
All Of Us Are Players is not just a random article. It is a reflection shaped by observation and thought, rooted in the realities of contemporary living.
We all dislike being played. It could happen in relationships, in life, or even within our own minds through anxiety and premature excitement.
When we speak of players, we often think of people who engage in games for fun, fitness, or income. However, the truth is that we are all players as long as we exist in this world.
We act for our own benefit. Sometimes, our selfishness pushes us into decisions that involve deception.
I have had conversations with different people about their views on relationships, and many of them point fingers at the same issues. Some say men are scumbags, while others describe women as gold diggers. The widespread culture of unhealthy comparison and misplaced ideas of equality has created noise and confusion in our society. But when I reflect deeply, I believe that all of us are players. We set our games in motion and take our shots, and when life does not go as expected, we blame whoever seems convenient.
During one of my conversations with a friend, he expressed his dislike for women, blaming what he called the effects of feminism. He believed it has caused many women to look down on men. But in truth, feminism has often been misunderstood and replaced with misandry. Feminism does not encourage rebellion without purpose. It stands for fairness and equality in a society where women were once denied opportunities and positions of influence.
History even reflects this strength in women. Figures like Deborah, the wife of Lapidoth, led with wisdom, and Jael acted with courage in difficult times. These were women who played significant roles in shaping their society. Women deserve fairness, not mistreatment. Many young women, especially in Africa, have had their potential limited by a system that places marriage above growth, leaving wisdom to fade.
Yet beyond all these conversations, the truth remains that we all play our games.
In relationships, we often play what some describe as the game of chicken. We wait for the other person to give in, to submit, or to chase. Some men expect women to serve them in every way, while some women approach love as a transaction.
Misogyny and misandry have damaged what could have been beautiful connections. In the struggle to survive, some women see marriage as an escape. But when expectations are not met, disappointment turns into blame. It is easy to imagine how different things would feel if those expectations had been fulfilled.
That, too, is a form of playing.
Even children are not left out. At times, we play on our parents’ emotions to get what we want.
In our careers, we also play our roles, striving to succeed, secure opportunities, and live comfortably.
In one way or another, every human being is a player.
Chidimma Writes
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