Chidimma Writes

  The world is large, I know, and everyone in it has different characters, though with certain similarities. But despite these differences, I sometimes convince myself that most people who claim to be older are still children at heart. While growing up, I often heard a phrase I have used repeatedly in my previous blogs because my childhood, till now, has been filled with many lessons. My mother taught me how to respect people’s decisions, but life taught me how to set my own boundaries, although sometimes I still allow people to override them. The reason I am writing this is to enlighten many people who see saying “No” as a grave offence, as though they are entitled to your entire life. I was in the examination hall, and she sat three benches behind me. We were writing a course that involved formulas, and I had prepared well for the questions. She needed help, but there was no way I could risk my future to help her, so I politely said no. Little did I know that she kept it in mind....

THE UNTOLD TRAUMA OF BEING THE QUIET AFRICAN DAUGHTER  Plato, the Roman philosopher, once said, “Do not force children into paths they do not want to follow.” In my own interpretation, he was right. People are born differently, made differently, and ultimately created differently by our Maker. Because of this, our purposes can never be the same. Many of us, because of childhood upbringing, have been deeply traumatized to the point where we neglect ourselves completely. While growing up, some of us were taught that real children never complained, explained themselves, or spoke in self defense because that would be seen as disrespect. Saying “I am tired” was almost a crime, and saying “I cannot go” was even worse. Every African child was expected to always be available at the beck and call of others, especially the girl child. We were taught that marriage was the ultimate priority in a woman’s life and that if you did not learn how to kneel and serve your spouse, then you would becom...

  ALL OF US ARE PLAYERS Humans are insatiable. According to Adam Smith, our desires are endless. As humans, we are filled with a deep longing for many things, and when we lose self control, we become puppets to those desires. All Of Us Are Players is not just a random article. It is a reflection shaped by observation and thought, rooted in the realities of contemporary living. We all dislike being played. It could happen in relationships, in life, or even within our own minds through anxiety and premature excitement. When we speak of players, we often think of people who engage in games for fun, fitness, or income. However, the truth is that we are all players as long as we exist in this world. We act for our own benefit. Sometimes, our selfishness pushes us into decisions that involve deception. I have had conversations with different people about their views on relationships, and many of them point fingers at the same issues. Some say men are scumbags, while others describe women...