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VULNERABILITY

 HEARTS DO LIE

By Chidimma Placid Nwaka 

Have you ever stood on the edge of crowning someone as one of the “good guys,” without knowing them deeply enough...like a shallow swimmer stepping into deep waters?

Have you ever thought someone was “the one for you,” without allowing consistency and time to play their quiet foreplay?

Almost everyone has been in this place at some point in life. You think you are getting closer to what you hoped for, but it turns out to be only a glimpse of the dream you carried. Sometimes, we simply have to be careful what we wish for. Instead of making desperate wishes, it is wiser to seek God’s will in everything.

Many of us are CONCLUSIONISTS. We rush into conclusions and judge people based on how they treated us in the beginning, rather than waiting to see who they truly become over time. And when they fail to live up to the fantasy we carefully built in our minds, the pain cuts deeper than the sweet fragments of kindness they once showed us.

Sometimes, our hearts do lie to us.

For those of us who are soft-hearted, we are often too quick to measure people by their early kindness, perhaps excessive affection or even momentary coldness. Some people are skilled players with refined tactics. They know exactly how a soft heart longs to be treated, and they perform accordingly.

Our hearts, moved by empathy, begin to rehabilitate these people. We hear about their painful pasts and quietly cook their stories in our minds. Even when reason tries to warn us not to give in, the heart; innocently and without hesitation, surrenders.

Players understand this weakness. They know that empathy is the softest door into a compassionate heart. So they use it.

In our hearts, we convince ourselves that they are the one. But reality eventually strikes, revealing that it was only the same old game played in a different pattern.

The heart lies; not because it intends to deceive us, but because when certain words reach its tender places, it softens. It shrinks into compassion, eager to heal and restore.

And that is the danger of loving people from afar, judging their looks and actions without truly knowing who they are, especially in their moments of anger.

Sometimes, the greatest lie is not what people tell us.

It is what our innocent hearts choose to believe.

— Chidimma Writes

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