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THE STEREOTYPE

 MEN ARE SCUM?

By Chidimma Placid Nwaka 



Every day, some women express different ideologies about men, describing them as scumbags, cheats, and many other negative names. I once had a deep conversation with a young lady in her mid twenties about her past relationships. Her response was almost amusing as she described men as scum and stingy. That conversation made me realize that sometimes men are not scumbags, cheats, or even stingy as some women claim. Only some men fit those negative descriptions, while others are simply gentle and sincere.

I am not left out of these stereotypes because of the different sons of Adam I have encountered over time. Yet I have chosen to think beyond that box. I believe there will always be a good man for every woman, and love itself does not need time, situation, place, or even your consent before it finds you.

However, there are two types of men, the boys and the men. Boys are players, while men are the game. Even at thirty or forty, some males are still boys, while in their twenties, some boys grow into good men.

Many women have fallen for players and then blame life for being unfair. Life is not unfair to anyone. It writes mystical stories and allows each chapter to unfold in its own time. Often, it is our own desires and expectations that catch us off guard.

Real men do not impress women with money or sweet words, but with action and consistency. No conditions are required and no deceit is involved.

Sometimes, we simply need to change our mindset about how we view life, not based on other people’s experiences, but on wisdom. Feminism has also played a negative role for some women. I would not even call it feminism. I would call it propaganda.

Still, real men are like Jacob who worked fourteen years for Laban because of Rachel. Or Isaac who saw his wife and expressed his feelings through acts of care and responsibility.

In conclusion, men are not scum. Only some are. Changing our mindset may lead us to the right man meant for us.

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